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"Connections and Why They Matter"
Most of what happens in our life will spark a connection. Life connects with what has been found in books. Books connect with what happens in life. Use the connections to help you see more clearly. A love of reading and writing is what motivated the creation of this blog. Thank you for coming to the blog.
There is no one whose story I am as familiar with as my own. The same is true for you. This seems obvious, but what surprises me is how I see my story differently almost every time I tell it.
Connections that seemed important when I told my story seemed less critical over time. Coincidences and perspectives have become more apparent over time. When I see those changes, the story changes as I retell it, and I find that it changes me. I become different because of how I see the story differently. We continually create who we are but use the same events to shape our conclusions.
Author Pat Conroy said: “The most powerful words
in the English language tell me a story.”
I have witnessed others change their conclusions about themselves using the same facts from participating in an event at my local church.
Over about 35 years, a men's group I participated in met once a month, and each time one person would take about 45 minutes and tell the group their life story.
The initial purpose of doing this was to help us get to know each other. We believed that men didn't get bonded quickly and were usually shy in this setting. So we felt it was essential to show appreciation and love for each other.
People moved in and away over this time, but somehow we could keep this going. After a few years, it led to recycling some of us by repeating our stories, and we would hear the life stories again. I have some memory issues, but I can usually remember the details of these stories clearly. What was interesting is that sometimes the events of a story heard before were viewed differently by the presenter when retold. I had occasions retelling my life experiences that I felt were important, and it was clear that the same events looked different in the retelling. There were times when I wondered if a person who seemed to see the same event differently when retold was doing so because, having told the story, he then found new connections to the events. I also wondered if the changes and different emphasis were on purpose, just reshaping an image.
People come and go in our lives, and it takes some time to see the reasons. When a new person comes, we take the influence and unique perspective for granted as coincidence. When we look back and see the full impact of the people and recent events in our lives, we see our own experiences differently, and as a result, the past looks different, and our common destiny feels changed by the events.
I am a reader, writer, author, listener, and seeker of knowledge. I ponder books, art, authors, music, poetry, service, kindness, and most of all, "people." These influences help us form our identity, change it, or even reinvent it as we go through life.
I have spent my career as an entrepreneur and a business executive, working with companies and employee groups of various sizes, some large ones. I successfully built my own company from an idea to a functioning business. For 22 years, it was a strong sales company covering 15 Western States and helping hundreds of companies grow their business.
As an employed top manager, I helped build several independent and corporate companies and helped bring about significant progress in their growth. The people always made a difference in results and made my efforts rewarding. Those years presented me with some excellent teaching and learning opportunities. They confirmed my belief that people can reshape themselves as they rethink their actions and lives. People want to learn. They are not just programmed to be what they always have been and will grow and rise according to their opportunities.
This website, “Connected Events Matter,” is an effort to explore the influences from our lifetime connections and how they change and impact our development and identity. The impact is ongoing and is always life-altering.
We have both a physical and spiritual self-image. We have our intellectual growth. As we look at our experiences and grow with them, we give purpose to our lives.
Reading and the Arts have a significant influence on our growth. This blog will look closely at these influences and present relevant book reviews. The events in our lives connect us, and we are connected.
Be passionate about improving. Be passionate about helping others. Listen to your feelings.
