The Foundation of Authenticity: Understanding Your Core Values

Authenticity is a popular buzzword, but how many people actually live authentically? It starts with understanding your core values—because you can't be true to yourself without knowing who you truly are.

To begin your journey toward authenticity, you must first clarify your values and beliefs. Start by making a list of what you believe. At a fundamental level, most people hold core values, whether consciously or unconsciously. Begin by identifying some universal values:

  • Honesty: Even those who may choose to be dishonest often expect honesty from others. This highlights honesty as a core value—one that is desired universally, even when not always practiced.

  • Accountability: Most people value accountability in others, expecting them to take responsibility for their actions. Recognizing this value in yourself can lead to greater integrity in your own behavior.

  • Knowledge and Growth: Lifelong learning and personal development are fundamental to many. If you value gaining knowledge and continuously improving, this is another principle that should make your list.

Reflect and Refine Your Values

Listing your values is only the first step. To truly integrate them into your life, actively reflect on them in your daily decisions and challenges.

When faced with a decision, ask yourself: "Does this align with my core values?" For instance, if you value knowledge, does your career allow you to learn and grow? If you value honesty, do you communicate transparently with others?

This process of reflection helps you uncover even deeper values. For example, while you may initially list honesty as a core value, you may discover that transparency, respect, and integrity are equally important to you. Over time, this list evolves and becomes a clearer guide for your actions.

Living Authentically with Your Core Values

Core values are not just words on a page—they are the foundation of who you are. They shape your decisions, guide your behavior, and determine how you show up in the world. When you understand and live by your core values, you create a strong sense of self and a consistent, authentic identity.

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Gratitude Proceeds to Happiness, and It Is Required If We Want to Achieve It

By Brent M. Jones

Gratitude is the quality of being thankful. It results in being willing and ready to show appreciation for and to return kindness. It brings a warm feeling of thankfulness towards the world or specific individuals. The person who feels gratitude is thankful for what they have received and does not constantly seek more. By actively practicing gratitude and focusing on the positive aspects of life, one naturally experiences increased happiness

Gratitude helps people feel more positive emotions, feel more alive, express more compassion, relish good experiences, improve their health, deal with adversity, and build strong relationships.

We will still have negative thoughts, but gratitude will help balance them out. “Gratitude is an emotion that grounds us and is a great way to balance out the negative mindset that uncertainty engenders,” said Dr. Guy Winch, author of the book Emotional First Aid.

The process of feeling grateful compels us to reflect on our relationships. It makes us feel closer and more connected to others, which helps motivate and sustain our efforts at self-improvement. We won’t be able to maintain our efforts for self-improvement without the help of others, and we will fail when we have the wrong motivation. When we're motivated by negative emotions, it is nearly impossible to sustain efforts to change. Is gratitude a soft skill?

Ask a person who is not grateful for the good things in their life, and you will find an unhappy person, but if you teach yourself or that person to understand and learn gratitude, it will become a life-changing soft skill.

“Gratitude turns what we have into enough.” – Anonymous.

"Thanksgiving is about Gratitude"

Work Matters, and Volunteers Matter, but the Benefits and Motivations will often Vary.

All work matters, but it isn't just the work itself that matters; all who contribute to it matter. All sides gain.

Volunteers do some work, but for most work, those doing the work are paid. Participants learn new skills, meet new contacts, and help get things done in both cases. Sometimes volunteers get things done that paid workers might not have done. With these benefits, you would expect a long line of volunteers from those out of work.

It is usually unknown who will be showing up to volunteer on a project, and those doing the work also often meet new people from various life backgrounds. Your connections with coworkers, suppliers, recipients, and organizations can make a difference to you long after the work is done.

Those receiving the benefit of the work done are lifted, improving their lives. Volunteering, working side by side with others, connect you to other human beings. When you volunteer, you are making connections. Paid for your time or not, always do your best in your work. It matters.

When you know, you have made a difference; you feel better about yourself. Therefore, taking pride in your volunteer work and doing your best work is essential.

Life is 10% what happens to you and 90% how you react to it

This quote is by bestselling author Charles Swindoll. Another similar thought is from a Japanese proverb:

“Fall seven times, stand up eight.”

We must react positively to falling by returning up, even if it means falling again.

Effective Communication brings people closer together or ensures that they don’t get closer.

Effective communication requires you to become an engaged listener. That means changing the usual focus of trying to listen to decide what to say next. Listening well will help you understand the words being communicated, but a person needs to learn how to understand the emotions conveyed.

When you listen, you’ll hear more than just words; you will hear the feelings in someone’s voice and understand that more than terms are being communicated and how a person feels about those words are more important.

Listening this way lets the other person know they were heard and understood. Resulting in a better connection.

What is being communicated often has nothing to do with the words, and the real intention (motive) can be a concern if known.

Snakes have motives

Retired Rattlesnake Roadside-Romeo was on a dirt road in rural Arizona. On the other side of the road was a chicken.

So, he hollers, "Hey there! Babe! I don't usually talk with random chicks, but you should know I am a hundred years old. Do you want to know the secret to long life?"

The chicken is intrigued and asks, "Well, what is it? Tell me"

Roadside-Romeo replies, "What'd you say? Can't hear you."

The chicken says, "What is the secret to long life?"

Roadside-Romeo says, "What, babe? Whatcha sayin'?"

So, the curious chicken crossed the road.

And went near Roadside-Romeo's ear and yelled, "What is the secret to long life?"

Roadside-Romeo hissed and rattled and replied, "Oh!!! The secret is - Don't talk to strangers!"

And in one quick swoop, the snake pounced and swallowed the bird.

And smugly, he thought, "Amazing, I can still pick up chicks with that joke!"

“Effective Communication is not just for good guys.”

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