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"Connections and Why They Matter"
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There is no one whose story I am as familiar with as my own. The same is true for you. This seems obvious, but what surprises me is how I see my story differently almost every time I tell it.
Connections that seemed important when I told my story seemed less critical over time. Coincidences and perspectives have become more apparent over time. When I see those changes, the story changes as I retell it, and I find that it changes me. I become different because of how I see the story differently. We continually create who we are but use the same events to shape our conclusions.
Author Pat Conroy said: “The most powerful words in the English language tell me a story.”
I have witnessed others change their conclusions about themselves using the same facts from participating in an event at my local church.
Over about 35 years, a men's group I participated in met once a month, and each time one person would take about 45 minutes and tell the group their life story.
The initial purpose of doing this was to help us get to know each other. We believed that men didn't get bonded quickly and were usually shy in this setting. We felt it was essential to show appreciation and love for each other.
People moved in and moved away over this time, but somehow we were able to keep this going. After a few years, it led to recycling some of us by repeating our stories, and we would hear the life stories again. I have some memory issues, but I can usually remember the details of these stories clearly. What was interesting is that sometimes the events of a story heard before were viewed differently by the presenter when retold. I had my occasions of retelling my life experiences that I felt important, and it was clear that the same events looked different in the retelling. There were times when I wondered if a person who seemed to see the same event differently when retold was doing so because, having told the story, he then found different new connections to the events. I also wondered if the changes and different emphasis were on purpose, just reshaping an image.
People come and go in our lives, and it takes some time to see reasons. When a new person comes, we take the influence and unique perspective for granted as coincidence. When we look back and see the full impact of the people and recent events in our lives, we see our own experiences differently, and as a result, the past looks different, and our common destiny feels changed by the events.
