#1 above says: “To be interesting, be interested.” That is the most powerful message of the five tips. It requires the other 4 to help you, but you have to want to know more about others rather than talking about yourself. If you love football and hunting and don’t like either, you need to find out what they want. If you know, you’ll spend time with them, then find out something about them before you get together to be comfortable talking about their interests.