Being overwhelmed with stress is a message to find out why you are stressed? →

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When you feel pressure, your body will send you a message and let you know. The message is referred to as stress. The pressure comes in a variety of ways. Feeling overwhelmed and unable to cope with life events is felt emotionally or even in your physical responses. You will think you can’t cope with what you are facing, and mental health suffers.

Many different situations or life events can cause stress. It can be triggered when we experience somethingnew unexpectede, threatens our sense of self, o feel we have little control over a situation.

Feelings of Stress Include:

• afraid

• angry

• aggressive

• sad

• Anxious

• defensive

• irritable

• frustrated

• depressed.

Recognizing that stress is being caused by pressure is a first step in working through it, but sometimes you will need help to get past it.

Don’t be a Pig (selfish): Pigs get Eaten →

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It can send a terrible message if you only feel satisfied if you get everything available in a relationship. Be careful not to send a message to those around you that you’re selfish. This is a trap everyone can fall into.

A salesperson with a perfect relationship with a buyer sometimes will ask for business he doesn’t have, with no apparent benefit offered. It can appear to suggest it is just expected because of the relationship. In a similiar situation, I recall a buyer who told this type of salesman:

“Don’t be a pig: pigs get eaten.”

Our selfishness can mean we hurt others as we ruthlessly strive to satisfy our needs. Self-centeredness can damage our reputation and lead to loneliness. It destroys families. Desire may make it easier for us to fall into traps like an addiction.

Solitude can lead to relaxation and reduced stress →

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Solitude can lead to relaxation and reduced stress if people choose to be alone. Solitude is the state of being alone without being lonely. Ten minutes a day might be enough to help stress. Living alone in a cabin at the foot of a remote mountain might be too much? ,

“Solitude could lead to relaxation and reduced stress,” a study found, and people who practiced solitude every day for a week experienced a “spillover effect” of having less intense feelings the following week.

Jim Carrey said: “Solitude is dangerous. It's very addictive. It becomes a habit after you realize how calm and peaceful it is. You don’t want to deal with people anymore because they drain your energy.

Nature offers some of the best stress reducing experiences →

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Spending time around trees and looking at trees reduces stress, lowers blood pressure, and improves mood. Numerous studies show that exercising in forests and simply sitting looking at trees reduces blood pressure and the stress-related hormones cortisol and adrenaline.

In general, the outdoors has a calming effect on us, and it has to do with the fresh air we're inhaling. Breathing is linked to the production of stress hormones. When breathing rapidly, our sympathetic nervous system is activated, and the body is energized for a "fight or flight" response.

What you are seeing, hearing, and experiencing at any moment changes your mood and how your nervous, endocrine, and immune systems are working.

How do you learn good work ethics and how do you convey that you have them? →

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Work ethic is a moral principle based on the idea that hard work is fundamentally valuable and worth pursuing. You likely possess other positive traits such as dependability, respectfulness, productivity, and collaboration if you have a strong work ethic.

Work ethics is one of the most critical factors for any professional's success and is a highly positive soft skill. Learning to have a positive work ethic by having good examples and leaders is the primary way it is developed, even though there is some evidence that it may be partially past on by genetics.

Work ethic is an essential Soft Skill based on hard work and diligence. In other words, work ethic is, for the most part, not something we are born with; it’s a learned behavior that becomes part of an individual's values. Like a company's corporate values, they must be taught and modeled daily.

Saying that your father had a good work ethic could mean that you had it passed on to you genetically, but it probably means that by example, at least, your father taught you about work ethics. Of course, talking about your genetic possibility of having a solid work ethic isn’t a good approach in a job interview.

If you find the occasion to talk about your work ethic, a good approach would be to describe yourself as reliable and consistent. You could add that you enjoy your work, and I find it easy to stay motivated and productive. You have also noticed that you feel better at the end of the day when you have had a great, productive day, and you find that I am that rewarding.

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What you do today changes who you are tomorrow. →

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Deciding to “Be Somebody” will require introspection to discover who you are. Just taking inventory and doing some severe pondering is a good starting point to find out what you are good at and not good at. Don’t confuse your point of view and conclusions with other people's expectations. Finding out who we are means asking ourselves what our values are, what truly matters to us, and then following the principles we believe in.

Build a list and add the things you are passionate about and the things you love to do. Ask someone you trust and respect for feedback on what you have put down. These are the first steps in knowing who you are, and learning what you want from life is itself part of what real success in life is. Knowing yourself will give you purpose, direction, and a true sense of well-being; that knowledge will change some of the things you do today.

Change anything about today, and you will change tomorrow and your life.

Change who you associate with. Surround yourself with people who will tell you the truth.

7 Ways to Increase Self Esteem and Self Confidence →

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Having the confidence to proceed in life requires more than just preparation. Of course, that is very important, but you must believe in yourself to value your practice and take the necessary steps.

 7 Ways to Increase Self-Esteem and Self Confidence

1.       Volunteering your time, money, or energy to help others doesn’t just improve the world but also makes you better. Studies indicate that the very act of giving back to the community boosts your happiness, health, and sense of well-being

2.       Avoid dwelling on past negative experiences

3.       Express your needs

4.       Feel confident

5.       Have a positive outlook on life

6.       Say "no" when you want to say no.

7.       See overall strengths and weaknesses and accept them

Why is Work Ethics a Soft Skill? →

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Soft skills are those things that make you a good worker and include people skills, manners, emotional intelligence, and your ability to communicate and interact with others effectively. These skills are often self-taught and self-developed. Unlike hard skills, they are not specific to an industry or job.

Hard skills refer to employees' job-related knowledge and abilities to perform their duties effectively.

Research shows that a good work ethic is the number one soft skill sought by employers. This soft skill is linked to improved performance and a greater likelihood of career advancement, which are essential to your job satisfaction level.

Maybe you thought just being in the race was enough? Well, you can be in the race, but unless you finish, one might say the race wasn't in you. Finishing the race is how it is remembered. Work Ethics is finishing what you start.

LinkedIn's Global Talent Trends report found that 92 percent of hiring professionals say soft skills matter more than hard skills. Employers seek out employees they can trust to represent the company in a professional and friendly way.

You will not likely get good feedback on how effective you are using or not using your soft skills in your employment reviews. Even when these measures are in place, soft skills are still considered intangibles and seldom discussed. Most people don’t know how to talk about them and aren’t comfortable doing so. People with gaps in their soft skills are often blindsided the first time they hear that there’s a problem. They’re given vague feedback like “you’re just not a people person” or “we need someone who shows more leadership.” Then they’re left to their own devices to try and figure out what that means and how to fix it. They’re mostly confused because something that’s never been quantified feels arbitrary, personal, and optional.

Stick to your Task,

by Anonymous 

Beginners are many, but enders are few.

Honor, power, place, and praise

Will come, in time, to the one who stays.

Stick to your task till it sticks to you;

Bend at it, sweat at it, smile at it too

2 Most Important Skills for Success →

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These skills can be called “Soft Skills,” but they are the most important and often neglected. A person can have many other skills, but these are important.

#1 is showing up!

#2 is showing up on time

These skills set you apart if you don’t have them. Everybody else on the team is impacted when you are late or don’t show up, and it makes you the least important person when it happens.

These two things create the image of many things. They suggest you are trustworthy, loyal, and can be counted on.

Should you use a coach or a mentor? →

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Coaching is more performance-driven, designed to improve the professional's on-the-job performance. Mentoring is more development-driven, looking not just at the professional's current job function but beyond, taking a more holistic approach to career development.

Coaching is a process of training and supervising a person to better their performance. At the same time, mentoring refers to the counseling process carried on to guide and support a person for career development.

Don't set yourself up for Productivity Shame with Unrealistic Goals →

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Productivity shame comes from unrealistic goals and measuring your self-worth with achievements. Productivity measures the efficiency of a person completing a task expressed in numbers. Even your life is measured in numbers.

According to the United Nations, today’s average global life expectancy is 72 - 70 for men and 75 for women. If a person livers to age 69, another 17 years can be added to that total, and the life expectancy becomes 86 on average. In the United States, life expectancy in 2019 was 78.87 years, but if a person reaches the age of 69, that time is lengthened to 85 years on average.

Establishing how many years of a person’s life will be productive is subjective. Productivity can be a philosophy of life, a state of mind, or even someone’s opinion. Freeing yourself from productivity shame requires you to stop defining your self-worth by quantitative accomplishments.

Instead of setting a goal to do all you can, decide how much is enough for each undertaking. For your individual goals to be realistic, you need to be able to answer the question of why you want that goal. Then you need to recognize that making progress is enough and take satisfaction in doing just that.

Kindness is a decision that requires action. →

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It's important to follow your heart to live a more fulfilling life. Although listening to your heart may or may not lead to tangible success, not following it can increase your risk of regret. When emotions drive reasoning, it's the heart speaking. Kindness isn't just a decision the intellect makes; it requires the heart to spur action. Doing nothing isn't a neutral position - it can be unkind. Conversely, taking action can sometimes come across as cold. As humans, are we inherently kind? When we act from the heart, are we embracing or surpassing our humanity?

Here are some relevant quotes that speak to these themes:

"The heart has its reasons of which reason knows nothing." - Blaise Pascal

"Kindness is not an intelligent decision. It is one the heart makes without motive." - Blaise Pascal

"Indifference and neglect often do much more damage than outright dislike." - J.K. Rowling, Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix

"Kindness is the language which the deaf can hear, and the blind can see." - Mark Twain

"It is futile to judge a kind deed by its motives. Kindness can become its motive. We are made kind by being kind." - Eric Hoffer

"My religion is straightforward. My religion is kindness." - Dalai Lama