Seeing ourselves clearly is often a problem but not seeing yourself clearly is a more serious problem. Sources for getting clear feedback can be a challenge as illustrated in Peanuts comic strip gave us a valuable solution years ago. We learned that "Your enemy tells you rotten things about yourself and makes you cry. Also we learned that your friends tell you rotten things about yourself and it makes you cry.
The difference, of course, is that your friends is sincere about the rotten things."
Listen closely to the feedback.
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