Brent M. Jones - Connected Events Matter

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If you focus on personal development does that mean you think you are broken?

Seeking ways to improve by building on who you are does not mean you are broken; it just means that part of you wants to improve and to be better. That desire is part of who you are.

The desire to improve and grow sometimes leads us to seek out self-help books, which is good. However, self-help books are often looked down on or resisted as offering real solutions. Probably the main reason is the mistaken conclusion that reading these books suggests that the reader is broken and needs fixing.

Just the opposite is true. Broken people focus on their negative traits rather than on how their good qualities can lift them up and help them improve. These insecurities stop them from going out into the world and discovering new things because they're too afraid of what people might think of them. Another more realistic way of improving is acknowledging that everyone begins from their place and that there is no real place where improvement and further personal development can not occur. We haven’t broken any more than that. We are complete. We are what we are, and we can try to be better.  

Reading more makes us feel accomplished and increases our knowledge, which makes us more empathic and humble.

Personal development is significant in that it helps you grow. You learn about the hardships in life from the experiences of others. You will learn to understand people and be kind and gentle. You turn into a more open-minded human, always eager to know and share more, and this shows up in your evolving character.