In a review I wrote about the book "Education, A Memoir, by Tara Westover" this quote by her stands out.
“First find out what you are capable of, then decide who you are.”
The quote describes what Westover did with her life. She had to make the decisions on her own and take the steps on her own. She was obviously capable of much more.
I also found a comment on the inside cover of the book that said, "Educated is an account of the struggle for self-invention".
I wrote "As You Look At Your Own Life Story You See Yourself Differently" last December in the Essays section of this blog. My focus in that article was on how we can re invent ourselves and how we see our past differently as we look back on it. We actually can change what the past experiences did for us as we rethink them.
Tara Westover found out who she was as shown in her memoir. Looking back at our own life story can help us find out who we are and that effort can make us better..
Give some thought to your life story. Find out what your capable of and then keep doing your best.
(See the Review of this book, Educated, A Memoir on this site. A full review was reprinted in the St. George Utah News)
AMIABLE, GOOD-NATURED, OBLIGING, COMPLAISANT mean having the desire or disposition to please. AMIABLE implies having qualities that make one liked and easy to deal with.
Polish you skills when your looking for a job, and of course while you still have a job.
Which is the most important tool to help you get the most done? A calendar or a to-do list? Skip the to-do list and use your calendar. Break the calendar down to the smallest section of time.
Even minutes can be scheduled. 15 minute segments or 30 minutes. Time is precious and using a calendar will help you maximize your time results.
If you can't find a place on the calendar to work on something it will never get done by putting it on a list.
Making a job change, and making the right decision about your next Making a job change, and making the right decision about your next job, can be one of the hardest jobs you will ever have. Give it your 100% effort. Get and and do it.
Your smile will give you a positive countenance that will make people feel comfortable around you. If you looking for a job and your one of the top two best candidates and one of you takes the time to smile and everything else is equal guess who gets the job?
When you talk you are only repeating what you already know but if you listen you may learn something, or a new meaning? Listening is a key job searching skill
“Life is messy, if you really want to live you're going to have to get your hands dirty…......... Same with finding the best job fit. Talk don't just click. Voice to Voice. Ask questions. Do the research. Finish the day tired. Work at finding the best job.
Solutions of puzzles often require the “Recognition of Patterns.” Solutions in life can benefit by watching and understanding patterns. The patterns in your life are found through your connections. Connect with the best people, best books, best thoughts and your best self.
The best jobs are found through networking. The process is not complicated. Talk to your past co workers, supervisors and people working where you want to apply. Messaging, texting, emails and more make this a digital experience. More can be learned by talking to your connections, face to face, or on the phone.
Set good goals. Give them a lot of thought and review regularly. Then act on them. Follow them. Go ahead and dream about them if you want.
You will know your intuition is there because you will feel it. Learn to trust your feelings. Look at your connections and let go of those that drain you. Reach our and make new connections. Find people who can help and inspire you. Sometimes more facts will change your view but trust your feelings
Be careful with your new hires in a startup. Talented people want to work with other talented people because they enjoy the inspiration and celebrating each other’s success. Seeking creativity is different from running from restrictions and rules. Build a team, don’t just fill positions.
Find a company and a boss that shares your core values
SOMEONE YOU KNOW KNOWS SOMEONE IN THAT GREAT COMPANY YOU WANT TO WORK FOR.
Six degrees of separation is the theory that any person on the planet can be connected to any other person on the planet through a chain of acquaintances that has no more than five intermediaries. Facebook says that it is really 4.74
“I don't trust people who don't love themselves and tell me, 'I love you.' ... There is an African saying which is: Be careful when a naked person offers you a shirt.” ― Maya Angelou
Trust in the Workplace is Vita - Brent Jones
"One light lights another and its light does not grow less" Share the flame. Help others succeed.
A squirrel goes through the winter finding his way to food each day using the same little trail. He has cover from onlookers but crosses a small break in the land where he jumps, without cover, from a rock on one side to the rock on the other side.
A hawk watches from above and notices that the squirrel takes the trail at the same time each morning. Even with brush covering the trail the hawk can see movement but at the small break he sees the squirrel exposed as he jumps.
Days pass. The squirrel’s habits do not change. The hawk watches. One day the hawk is ready and drops from the sky just in time to catch the squirrel in his mouth in midair as he leaps from the rock.
Daily routine keeps you busy but can be used against you. Stop and look up. What is different about today. Don’t let habits obscure needed actions.
Why do we strive to excel? Is it for our "self-image" or is it to give thanks for our abilities and to help others? In our search for excellence, perfection and accomplishment we can become trapped. C.S. Lewis said "Pride gets no pleasure out o having something only out of having more of it than the next man.... It is the comparison that makes you proud: the pleasure of being above the rest. Once the element of competition is gone, pride is gone.”
Get Clear Feedback on How Your Doing. Seeing ourselves clearly is often a problem. A Peanuts comic strip gave us a valuable solution years ago. We learned that "Your enemy tells you rotten things about yourself and makes you cry. Also we learned that your friends tell you rotten things about yourself and it makes you cry.
The difference, of course, is that your friends is sincere about the rotten things."
Listen closely to the feedback.